Coaching

Mindset and life coaching for mums on a mission.

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The newborn identity

How do you keep hold of who you are when everyone else is calling you “Mum”?

I’m a life coach, trained in helping people connect to their deepest sense of self and motivation. I’m also a mum to an extremely active toddler. When my little girl was born, I realised how easy it is to lose your sense of self in the vastness of motherhood, so I set out to help other mothers find themselves after they’d created someone else.

Keeping Mum

Being a mum is the most amazing experience in the world. It’s also the hardest. It’s a minefield of guilt, fear, self-doubt and sleep deprivation. Society makes us feel like we can’t complain – we have to post cute pictures on Instagram, hide the snot stains on our clothes and follow up any less than incredibly positive comment with, “oh but it’s worth it!”

Well, guess what? You’re allowed to complain. You’re allowed to ask for help. You’re allowed to not know what the hell you’re doing and get some guidance to figure it all out. You’re also allowed to look after yourself. In fact, it’s crucial that you do. Nourishing and nurturing your own self means you’ll have more to give to your child.

So let’s talk about you. 

What I’m not

I’m not a child behaviour specialist. I can’t tell you how to stop your young child throwing all their toys across the room or chucking their dinner on the floor. If you find out, please come back and tell me. Seriously, I’d love to know.

I’m not a therapist. If you’re suffering from severe depression, anxiety or thoughts of self-harm, please contact your GP or healthcare provider straight away. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. One in four people in the UK experience mental health issues every year. A lot of parents avoid getting help because they worry it makes them a bad parent or the authorities will want to take their children away. It doesn’t, and they won’t. Getting help is a sign of an awesome parent – it’s the best thing you could do for your child to get yourself the support you need. You’re human, and that’s ok.

How I can help

What I can do is help you to identify the mindset issues you’re struggling with, and put plans in place to overcome them.

I can work with you to rediscover your identity and connect with your sense of purpose, so that you feel more empowered, engaged and energised.

I can help you feel more fully yourself so that you have more to give.

Whether you prefer a group environment, where you can also connect to other mums on a similar journey, or you want the privacy and focus of one-to-one sessions, I can work with you to find the “me” behind the “mummy”.

Let’s chat

If you’d like to chat to me about how coaching could help you, you can email me at hello@allegra-chapman.com

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