It always starts with "I want to have a baby". But the baby stage is so fleeting. We prepare ourselves so much for this tiny person we'll have for maybe four months, but forget to prepare for the child we'll have for many years.
Telling mothers to "raise boys better" is just another way to blame women for male violence. It only serves to distract us from the systemic issues that need solving.
Do you ever hear anyone talking about how they want to have their appendix out "naturally"? No. So why do we pressure women into giving birth without any pain relief or potentially life-saving interventions? The idea of "natural childbirth" is a myth, and it's one designed to hold women back.
"I'm not having any more children." "Oh, you say that now..." "Yes, I do. Because I'm not having any more children." "Haha, everyone says that, but they all change their minds..." I've spoken with my health visitor a grand total of three times - one phone call and two home visits - and we've now … Continue reading Stay out of my uterus
Parenting classes, books and all the well-intentioned advice don't prepare you for the realities of parenthood. Here are five things I wish someone had told me before I became a mother.